Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Skinny vs. Fat: The War Rages On

What was initially a "who wore it best" poll, turns into a "skinny vs. fat" war...

I think both of them (Kim Kardashian and Victoria Beckham) look great in the Alexander McQueen ensemble, in their own element. {Note: The dress was originally worn by Beckham in March of 2009, then Kardashian followed in the optical illusion ensemble for a promotional campaign for her reality show on E!} In my honest opinion, both have chosen to wear the dress in a way that highlights their best assets, according to their own body and personal sense of style!

However, when I read the comments on the post, it was a total "skinny vs. fat" war of words among a wide array of women! The same amount of hatred can be found on DailyMail's online article. I believe, it may have been started by the words chosen by the writer of the post or maybe it's just the harsh view of women that is ingrained within us by the media and society.

The only comment I found not repulsive and extremely
honest is Sarrs':
“Unbelievable. These posts are just plain mean.
I understand curvier women supporting Kim [Kardashian], makes sense more like them and thinner women supporting Victoria [Beckham] for the same reasons. Seriously, there’s no need to hate on anybody. 

Most of us women cannot help our body types, save dieting or plastic surgery. Women with large breasts, butts, and hips are the “classic woman”–-well, what about those that are naturally thin? Just because they happen to have been born with small breasts, hips and butts, they are less womanly? Seriously ladies. Stop being so mean to one another. I know these posts are anonymous, but would any of you make these comments to someone’s face? I think we all have a really hard time trying to love what we were born with. Media mixes messages for us on a daily basis. Thin women are made to feel less feminine because they lack “womanly curves”–-I guarantee–-they already feel bad about this. Curvy women are made to feel like fashion is only for the thin–-runway models are notorious waifs–-so they too feel the need to starve themselves to look more like models (less than 5% of our population). Lets try loving one each other instead of bashing the opposite of whatever body type that we have to make ourselves feel better.

Women are women because they have breasts (small or large) and a vagina to make babies. Ladies in a world where we are pitted against one another, lets not buy into this crap and support each other.
In regards to the fashion of the dress I think each wore it for their own reasons: Victoria so it would give an illusion of more curves (what so many are meanly criticizing her for not having–for gods sake–the dress is an attempt to look more like someone like Kim); Kim is proud of her curves, I can’t speak to whether or not they’re all real, but she wore the dress to show off what she considers her best assets.

So what?!? Do any of you feel better about yourself after reading all this? Do you feel vindicated by those who have bashed on your opposite body type? Do you feel validated by the men and women who have praised your body type?

This world is hard enough. We don’t need to add to the madness by berating anyone.

Kit-Kat's comment is assuring as well: "In my opinion these two girls are on the extreme sides of curvy and thin and I think the dress is meant for a girl who’s in the middle. {Say, Carol Vorderman?} And stop judging girls ASAP because I see people insulting VB for being to thin and calling KK beautiful, and I see people calling KK fat and VB beautiful. Kim [Kardashian] doesn’t need to lose [weight] and Victoria [Beckham] doesn’t need to gain [weight]. They’re both beautiful but in different ways, why can’t you people see that? Judging people is what makes them change their bodies for the worse, so stop it already!"

I wonder what people would say if the images were of two larger women or two slimmer women:

For those who don't know me, I’m a skinny or thin-framed individual and have been all my life. Last year I had made friends with 2 larger or plus-size women and they had their own body issues, just as anyone does. However, they were threatened by me because of my skinny or super-thin frame that they desperately wanted. One of them I considered a good friend and the other I considered an acquaintance.

One day, I decided we all should hang out and we all went to a restaurant, then a lounge, followed by a karoke bar.

Later that night they both were trash-talking about me behind my back, picked me up at the karaoke bar (without my permission) and threw me around like a doll. At first I tried laughing it off, but later as they were forcefully pushing me and pulling me, I felt highly threatened. Luckily, my other half was with me so he had to intervene in order to get me out of there. It was an ultimate form of disrespect and I discontinued my friendship with both those individuals immediately. I have been teased about my body, just as anyone else, and I don't value people who bash one another–-I like focusing my energies on the positives! I think ignorance only breeds more hatred and misunderstanding!

And I know that men feel the same way in regards to their own personal bodies, so women aren't alone in this! Men are berated by the media, same as women. We're all human; I think we should all accept and love ourselves, followed by loving one another. When we start doing this, even in the smallest way, then we can all start the process towards peace (within ourselves and within this world).
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